Spent the day with mom..:)
During lunch, we chatted about how to deal with people who love making other people feel bad about themselves even though they don't appear doing so. They usually will slip in their mean remarks in between compliments.
For example :
"Oh, such a handsome son, look at his beautiful eyes. (looks at the mother) I bet he got it from his father."
Some people told me that these kind of remarks aren't necessarily an insult, but more of an opinion. The thing is, some opinions are better kept to yourself, if, if it might make the other person feel uncomfortable. There are many many people out there whose style aren't my cup of tea, but there is clearly no need to say it out loud. Why even bother? If there is anything I need to say, I would simply look for something I like out of his/her style and just compliment on that. That simple.
Practice on appreciating the good in others and think of what other people (might) feel, not satisfying our own ego of having to have an opinion all the time.
Because having good manners simply matter.
I personally think these remarks would have sounded better.
"Oh, such a handsome son, look at his beautiful eyes."
Just stop right there. That's all. Words can be very dangerous, you know? We really need to pay attention to the words we use and how we structure it. I really hope "small" things like these can be better practiced on a daily basis..:)
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Mom said, if we come across these kind of people, no matter how much we feel like replying back, just let it go. At the end of the day, Allah will only give happiness and blessings to those are genuinely kind to others. So let them be. Let them say what they want.
If you wonder where I got my positive attitude from, I got it from my momma.
During lunch, we chatted about how to deal with people who love making other people feel bad about themselves even though they don't appear doing so. They usually will slip in their mean remarks in between compliments.
For example :
"Heyyyy, long time no see. You look good! A bit fat though, but looking good as always!"
"I love the way you think. But not a fan of your personal style."
"Oh, such a handsome son, look at his beautiful eyes. (looks at the mother) I bet he got it from his father."
"I finally found a part of your house that I dislike - the sofa doesn't look comfortable. Love your house though."
Some people told me that these kind of remarks aren't necessarily an insult, but more of an opinion. The thing is, some opinions are better kept to yourself, if, if it might make the other person feel uncomfortable. There are many many people out there whose style aren't my cup of tea, but there is clearly no need to say it out loud. Why even bother? If there is anything I need to say, I would simply look for something I like out of his/her style and just compliment on that. That simple.
Practice on appreciating the good in others and think of what other people (might) feel, not satisfying our own ego of having to have an opinion all the time.
Because having good manners simply matter.
I personally think these remarks would have sounded better.
"Heyyyy, long time no see. You look good!"
"I love the way you think."
"Oh, such a handsome son, look at his beautiful eyes."
"Love your house."
Just stop right there. That's all. Words can be very dangerous, you know? We really need to pay attention to the words we use and how we structure it. I really hope "small" things like these can be better practiced on a daily basis..:)
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Mom said, if we come across these kind of people, no matter how much we feel like replying back, just let it go. At the end of the day, Allah will only give happiness and blessings to those are genuinely kind to others. So let them be. Let them say what they want.
If you wonder where I got my positive attitude from, I got it from my momma.
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