One of the reasons why I don’t like going to a shared nursing room in a public place is that sometimes, some mothers get so nosy. I love chatting and sharing experiences with other moms, but “having a nice chat” and “having someone so nosy about you and your baby” is a totally different thing. I remember feeding my baby in Plaza Senayan’s nursing room, and next to me was another mother feeding her baby too. Being a room with another person, of course you tend to look at each other, and so I smiled.
And then came a question:
Her: “Are you feeding him breastmilk or formula?”
Me: “Hi. Oh, this is formula milk.”
Her: “Oh...why?”
Me: “Well, my baby and I had some struggles, and basically doctor recommended me to start mixing between breastmilk and formula milk.”
Her: “Oh..I see.”
Me: *smiles*
Her: “Well, I’m exclusively feeding my baby breastmilk.”
Me: “Good for you.”
Her: “Did you go for c-section? Or natural birth?”
Me: “Natural birth.”
Her: *nods*
Me: *smiles*
Her: “Do you use a babysitter?”
Me: “No, I don’t. Oh, I’m done btw. Nice meeting you. Bye.”
Her: “Bye.”
I exited the room and boy was I thinking..OH, MY, GOD. I felt like I just came out of an interrogation room.
From my personal observation, many mothers out there treat motherhood as a competition. But why? Every mother and every baby is unique. No one goes through the same thing. If you are one who is in a position where you need advice hence need to ask another mother, then ask. Asking and getting information from other mothers will definitely help you and even comfort you. But if you feel like you’re sort of doing good and want to brag about yourself, then you’re actually not a better person nor mom.
There is so much pressure out there that makes many mothers depressed and not enjoy motherhood. While actually, motherhood is beautiful. It’s magical. But then other people take that away from you for many reasons. I have met so many friends who actually give their babies formula milk (not exclusive breastmilk) but have to lie to people they meet just because they are afraid of getting judged.
I’m a new mom who is learning so many new things every day – and I love it. I will not let anyone judge me this or that just because they can. If anything, it is the doctors who I seek advice from. For those competing mothers, I hope you find peace in yourself and your motherhood journey.
Xoxo,
Diana
And then came a question:
Her: “Are you feeding him breastmilk or formula?”
Me: “Hi. Oh, this is formula milk.”
Her: “Oh...why?”
Me: “Well, my baby and I had some struggles, and basically doctor recommended me to start mixing between breastmilk and formula milk.”
Her: “Oh..I see.”
Me: *smiles*
Her: “Well, I’m exclusively feeding my baby breastmilk.”
Me: “Good for you.”
Her: “Did you go for c-section? Or natural birth?”
Me: “Natural birth.”
Her: *nods*
Me: *smiles*
Her: “Do you use a babysitter?”
Me: “No, I don’t. Oh, I’m done btw. Nice meeting you. Bye.”
Her: “Bye.”
I exited the room and boy was I thinking..OH, MY, GOD. I felt like I just came out of an interrogation room.
From my personal observation, many mothers out there treat motherhood as a competition. But why? Every mother and every baby is unique. No one goes through the same thing. If you are one who is in a position where you need advice hence need to ask another mother, then ask. Asking and getting information from other mothers will definitely help you and even comfort you. But if you feel like you’re sort of doing good and want to brag about yourself, then you’re actually not a better person nor mom.
There is so much pressure out there that makes many mothers depressed and not enjoy motherhood. While actually, motherhood is beautiful. It’s magical. But then other people take that away from you for many reasons. I have met so many friends who actually give their babies formula milk (not exclusive breastmilk) but have to lie to people they meet just because they are afraid of getting judged.
I’m a new mom who is learning so many new things every day – and I love it. I will not let anyone judge me this or that just because they can. If anything, it is the doctors who I seek advice from. For those competing mothers, I hope you find peace in yourself and your motherhood journey.
Xoxo,
Diana
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